Just Kiss Her

The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender.
Emil Ludwig

A guy once made the mistake by asking me IF he can kiss me. Maybe he was just being a gentleman and didn't want to offend me by moving too fast. OR he was just being a coward and was scared I'll push him away.

So what did I say to the chicken? I didn't say anything. I couldn't make myself say anything. Somehow, it felt like a trick. I had to rephrase his question several times in my head. Would I want some stranger's lips touch mine? If I let him kiss me, what impression will that give? Why the hell is he even asking my permission for anyways?

I admire the fact that in a way he respected me. He cared enough to ask, and didn't advance himself when he could have. So, I think that that was kind of sweet. But at the same time, I just didn't know what to say. I wanted to say 'Yes', but it felt like saying yes would take all the excitement away. My mind warned me that if I gave him vocal permission, then the kiss wouldn't feel right anymore. I know. I know. I always make things complicated. I never really say things the way they run in my mind. I'm twisted in that sense... and I'm a girl. Yes, being a girl gives me the poor excuse to be indecisive. (No offense meant to the girl population)
And then, when I was finally on the process of giving him consent, he said the dumbest thing ever. He asked, 'Why? Are you shy?'

Here's the thing, and I'm NO expert, but just opinion-wise, here's what I think:

1. If a girl lets you take her out to see movies and whatnot, before she even agreed on a date with you, she probably thought of how it would be like if you give her a quick peck.
So don't be stupid and don't ask ridiculous things. Just kiss her.

2. I believe that the first kiss actually tells you how your relationship will go with that person. And I'm not just saying this because I watched 'Hitch' and the movie convinced me of the importance of first kisses. But you need to know if there's some sexual connection between you two, you know? So again, kiss her and melt her heart.

3. Don't be scared to steal a kiss from her. And when I say steal, I didn't mean to harass her with kisses. But find the courage to let her know what she means to you by the way you kiss her.

4. Kiss her passionately. Let every kiss take each of your breaths away. Give her a slow and enduring kiss. Kiss her because she matters to you, and not just because your hormones order you to.

...let every kiss take each of your breaths away.

Again, this is for the sake of saying what I need to say. I'm not speaking in behalf of the female species. I'm speaking in behalf of a world I know, and in behalf of the principles and values I live by.

Bottom point is, if you like someone... don't hesitate. Just do what you want to do. And maybe, MAYBE, the other person has also thought of doing the same thing.

Have a great week ahead of you.
xxxxooo,
iris